I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. You already have some strengths that you’ve used before, that for whatever reason isn’t working right now. Perhaps this problem feels overwhelming and is making it difficult to access your past strengths. In our work together, I’ll help you identify what those strengths are and how to implement them again in what is happening now.
What’s the difference between therapy and talking to my best friend or a supportive family member?
The unique aspect of counselling is that your therapist is there for you and you alone in your session. It is a special time when the dialogue is focused in one direction unlike any other relationship. In therapy intimacy develops that is non-sexual and non-freindship between the client and therapist and evidence shows this relationship or therapeutic alliance is the biggest factor in the success of therapy. Furthermore you will be talking to someone who has the expertise and the professional training to listen, to add insight and knowledge and to help you see and do things differently. Generally friends and family have there own opinions and values but therapists are trained to listen without judgement of expectations. be non judgemental, to have no expectations. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, and help you move forward when you feel stuck. Furthermore, therapy is completely confidential. You never have to worry about others knowing your business.
How does counselling work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to fit your specific needs
How long does each counselling session last and how regularly do I see my therapist?
Counselling sessions are generally 50 minutes in length but longer sessions may be available. I generally see my clients once a week or once every two weeks. Clients that attend sessions on a more regular, frequent basis tend to have more success with reaching their goals.
How long will it take to achieve my goals?
Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time therapy takes depends on the person and the issue. You may experience some immediate relief but it generally takes time to accomplish your goals and depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. The work we do in our counselling sessions is just the beginning. It is the work you do outside of our sessions that will really help you see your personal growth and development.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
If you are concerned about your relationship, and you would both like to work with me, I would initially work with both of you together. After this work, if one of you would like to continue in individual sessions, I could work with only one of you. It is not helpful to move from individual into couple’s work with the same therapist because of potential trust issues.